What’s up with the dating scene? These days, it seems no one wants commitment or an actual relationship. People are often quick to blame things like dating apps or social media, but what if it’s something deeper?
According to Psychology Today, half of single people don’t want to date, and marriage rates around the globe are rapidly declining. They claim that this is mostly because of a lack of social pressure, and if there is pressure, people just don’t let it get to them anymore. Both sides are blaming each other, and this has caused a division between the two genders.
Some women feel that men don’t want partners anymore, but rather maids, chefs, free child care, and workers so that men can have easier lives. They also feel that there is a maturity gap caused by the different social pressures placed on women. The other problem is that men are twice as likely to bring physical and emotional risks into relationships as they were 10 years ago. Half of Gen Z women feel disrespected by men and that they are only viewed as objects and not people. This fear of men has caused many women to want to stay single and be the “crazy cat lady,” claiming they have more peace.
They claim they have invested too much emotional labor in their relationships. It doesn’t help that two-thirds of young men claim that no one really knows them, and they don’t feel comfortable emotionally opening up to their male friends.
But men’s lack of investment in healthy male friendships isn’t just a problem for women; it hurts men as well. When men trauma dump, women withdraw, causing men to feel rejected. Men tend to feel that women cost too much, and they are afraid of getting hurt again. Studies show that 55% of men who watch masculinity influencers such as Andrew Tate believe that women just don’t care about men anymore, which unfortunately isn’t that wrong nowadays.
They also believe that women are too promiscuous and have a hard time finding “wifey material.” Most men have also been hurt by women at some point, which causes them to feel that they will be hurt again. This puts up boundaries in their relationships and hurts both sides.
But the problem doesn’t come down to one gender causing all the problems; both of them are hurting the dating scene. Things such as porn being easily accessible, dating apps, hookup culture, talking stages, micro-cheating, unrealistic expectations, and society still getting used to women not having to rely on men anymore all have a part to play when it comes to the dating scene. To fix this, society will have to reach a point where men and women can respect and trust each other again.
